What are soul ties?
Have you ever been so profoundly tethered to a person that you feel as if you are drawn to them? Their pull is like a magnet, and you feel like you do not know where they end, and you begin. You feel as if you are one heart, one body, and one soul, and it becomes challenging to stay away. If all this sounds familiar to you, what you’re experiencing has historically been referred to as a ‘soul tie.’
You may have heard different variations of the same thing. Some may call it spiritual connection, some may refer to it as soulmates, but all of this inherently implies the same thing. The feeling of being irrevocably and intensely connected to a person, the connection seems to be deeply embedded in your soul.
How is a soul tie developed?
There seems to be a common misconception that a soul tie is solely caused by having sexual intercourse with someone. Although having sex does indeed intensity the degree of the soul tie, it is not the sole cause. A soul tie often developed after having experienced deep emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy with a person. When you are in such proximity with a person, sometimes you leave a part of your soul with them, and a part of theirs tethers along with you; it feels as if you have become tied to them. Any form of intimacy, but especially sexual intimacy, can result in a soul tie.
What are common symptoms of a soul tie?
- The bond creates intense emotional reactions: someone you share a soul tie with has an extreme ability to impact your mood, more so than anyone else. Their company brings you more peace and joy, but their absence can cause intense longing and prolonged anxiety. Having a soul bond with someone means that they can create emotions within you that other people do not. They are more extreme than average emotional reactions.
- They seem familiar: you begin to associate feelings of safety and acceptance with them. You feel displaced when they’re not around, and when they are around, you feel like you finally belong.
- They make you feel whole: your feelings for them are at a deeper level than most people, and therefore, when they’re not around, you feel as if a part of you is missing. If you get separated from this person, you might feel like you are no longer complete; you might feel empty or broken.
- Obsession: In their absence, you think about them constantly, and you obsess over them. This person is frequently in your head, and you feel as if you can hear their voice. You might even dream of them often.
How to break a soul tie?
A soul tie, especially with someone who can no longer be a part of your life, can feel like you’re entangled and trapped. It can feel as if you’re stuck in the past with no room out. A soul tie can become unhealthy and difficult to manage because it can cause great unrest and anxiety. It is essential to learn to let go of a soul tie to regain your sense of individuality. There are a number of steps involved in the process of letting go.
The first step: awareness and acknowledgment is always the first step. Once you realize that you are tethered to a person this way and that it is not an isolated experience but part of a universal phenomenon, it would automatically make you feel less alone. Once you acknowledge the existence of a soul tie, only then can you work to untether yourself.
The second step: the second step is to try a variety of different methods to try and break the soul tie. Some people prefer to find someone to talk to, a therapist or a psychologist is often a viable solution because they can provide you with a map to navigate how you feel. Some people prefer talking to friends or family and healing themselves by using emotional connections with others. Many people choose to turn to inner recovery, and they cope with the use of tools such as grounding and meditation that allow them to reconnect with themselves and replenish their souls. Some individuals take it a step further and go to spiritual retreats in different parts of the world. There is no one set rule book for how you choose to untether your soul.
The third step: forgiveness; this is essential in letting go. You need to let bygones be bygones and accept that the circumstances were not under your control. Let the person know you forgive them for whatever hurt they have caused and then truly attempt to forego.
Lastly: one final step is to get rid of all possessions and reminders that make you think of that person. These things tether you to what you shared with them. It is essential to release all these things in order to find yourself.
In short, intimacy can be insanely powerful; you may even end up feeling as if you can never be complete without this person. A soul tie can feel as if you are intertwined for life, and there is no coming back. The truth is, we are very much in control of how we connect to people, and we can always work to disconnect with them and reconnect with ourselves. It is essential to, firstly and foremost, build a connection with yourself. You cannot let go of your sense of individuality and your being in an attempt to connect with someone else.
If you want to feel at peace with yourself and get rid of all this extra weight and anxiety, you can start developing a soul bond. No one is ever irrevocably broken, and you can heal from everything if you try.